Oct 16, 2009

mothers bf take 5 :P

So here I am sitting on my bed wondering about what Edna must be doing, for being too busy to post something! Ahahah, I'm kidding, I don't mind if she doesn't write anything, I'm just so happy when she does :). Anyways, my post tonight as I promise, will be about that famous night I met my moms boyfriend. Bid deal! Well not that much but still, it's quite an event! So first, the circumstances were kinda ackward, because I was back from work, so all messy looking, and biking, so exhausted, AND it was pouring icy rain, so all wet, oh great..... NOT. Anyways, I got in, and knew he was there sitting at the table with mother, but at first I couldn't look at him for any reasons, and then he started talking to me, amused by my state, I guess, and as he stood up and walk towards me with mother in front, I manage to give a look, and then I was relieved. Relieved because he didn't look like someone you don't get along with, you know those people, you just have to look at them and you know at this very moment you won't like them.... So here, he wasn't one of those, good thing in a way. Then we shook hands, I surely wasn't going to kiss him on the cheeks, that would be too much for the first seconds in his presence! But I felt kinda ridiculous, not only because I looked horrible with my humid raincoat and my muddy pants, also because I knew he knew I didn't want to meet him for so long, and he might have thought I would be really picky on watever he'll do or say, but seriously, at this point, I didn't really care. The first step was over, I didn't have to worry about what he'll be looking like or what I'll need to be in front of him. But then I had to shower and get ready because I had a night out, so for the first time, it was pretty quick view with barely talk. But the next day, I got to eat dinner alone with him and my mom, well my brother was suppose to be there too, but had better plans, sigh. It wasn't that bad though, in the meaning that we got to talk enough and we even exchange a complicity at one moment, when we started speaking about computers, which my mother lost track of the conversation, since she isn't into computers at all, except for work :P. So no ackward moments, but I didn't really like the way he was sometime mocking my mom, he barely knows her, in a way, and, I dont know I just didn't like it. So that was the only moment of "complicity" between us. I say the only, because I never got to see him after that night. And I know it will sound illogical, but I kinda take it personal that he left my mother not even 2 weeks after that week-end.... I mean, of course it's not because of me or whatever, and its not my mothers fault, of course, he said, but still, maybe I did say something I shouldn't have, or something.....
So I've been busy lately trying to confort poor heartbroken mother. Its good to realize sometimes you can be useful and helpful for somebody, which doesn't happen often in my case. So that was (finally!) the little story about this man who got with my mom, and then realized he needed more time with himself. I wont judge his choice, but still, it is a weird conclusion. Its my sister who will be the most relieved about this, since she still didn't want to meet him, and not even to hear about him. I was like this too for the first weeks, and I couldn't tell the exact reason that change my mind, but I just wanted to spend time my mom without making her to choose between wether of her kids or her bf she will spend the week-end with. So thats it for now, I'm starting to see my screen very blurry now that I've taken cold medicine and they starting to be effective. Yep, I too got a freakin cold, dammit! Hope I'll get better for Halloween tho :P Oh and it actually took me 5 days to write this entire post, and I'm way to lazy and drowsy to read it all over before publishing it, so sorry for the lack of sense.. :P

Anyways, take care,
and enjoy every moments, as usual :)
Robi. ;)

3 comments:

  1. I'm happy for you that you could overcome your fear and apprehension of meeting him... I think it's a really BIG step for you... and, if I might add, I don't think your sister's gonna be relieved... I have my own theory about why she's feeling this way about your mom having a boyfriend.. but I think you should talk with her about it. :)

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  2. oh hello!
    What an unsuspected comment,
    mais j'en prends conscience, merci :)
    I'll surely talk with her, as soon as she has free time.....

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  3. Is this Nancy? If it is... hi Nancy! Somebody actually reads our blog...this I did not know haha.
    Hmm anyways, I have no idea why I didn't see this post earlier! I am so happy you finally wrote it! Altho, it's too bad that it didn't last. Or maybe it isn't, I don't know. I hope your mom isn't too tore up about it, anyways. Haha, it's funny how you met him...And it sounds like it wasn't as horrible as you had anticipated, and now you don't have to wonder anymore. Families are just so complicated etc. etc. I like what you had to say about not wanting to make your mom choose between her kids and her bf. So mature!
    Anyways, I'm glad to hear this story. Hopefully things continue on in an improving type way :)

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